“It all depends on how we look at things, and not on how they are themselves.” – Carl Jung
It’s all too easy to slip into comparing yourself negatively against others. When you think negatively, you begin to see only what you don’t have or what you can’t do compared to others, so in effect, you judge your own success or failure by comparing yourself to others.
If you have a clear vision of what success looks like for you and you’ve set yourself a series of stepping-stone goals to help you get there, does getting there make you a success? And, just as importantly, does not getting there make you a failure? What if you get there, but you still find that you don’t have what others have or you can’t do what others do?
Getting to where you want to go is only the beginning of your journey, unless it’s your choice to stay there once you arrive. Success is a journey, not a destination, so where you go next and what you do next is always your choice, but here’s a thought to ponder over… if you’re not enjoying the journey, you’re unlikely to enjoy the destination.
“Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it.” – Greg Anderson
You see, if you constantly perceive the success of others to be greater than your own, you believe yourself to be a failure compared to others. Seeing yourself as a failure effectively keeps you blinkered to any opportunity to succeed – and you’re stuck where you are. All it takes to keep moving forwards on your journey to discovering your true potential is a shift of focus.
For example, let’s say you failed to reach a milestone in an allotted timeframe. You might choose to see this as an outright failure, but a shift of focus away from what you didn’t achieve onto what you did achieve is a powerful way to keep things in perspective and keep you moving. Where did you get to, what did you achieve, and what did you gain out of the experience that you can take forwards to help you achieve more tomorrow, next week, next month…?
“You can’t depend on your eyes if your imagination is out of focus.” – Mark Twain
How you view your circumstances at any given point on your journey is down to your perception, and how you choose to deal with the inevitable bumps in the road you encounter along the way comes down to your mindset. Your perception and your mindset are your choice. Choose to shift to a positive viewpoint – and enjoy the journey you’re on.
Don MacNaughton is a High-Performance Coach and has worked tirelessly to help clients achieve success in the world of sport and business over the past 15 years. The next, highly popular, NLP Diploma and Life Coaching Certificate course starts in September 2019. Click here for more information or to sign up.